Step One: Write down every man and his dog
Before we even put pen to paper, there are two questions you need to ask yourself (actually ask your fiancé):
NUMBER 1: What is our budget.
Essentially, your budget = your guest list, and your guest list = your budget. If you’re budget allows for 200+ guests, and you want them all there, then by all means go ahead and invite them all! There isn’t anyone telling you, you can’t have that many people there. Just make sure that your budget allows for it, easy as that!
NUMBER 2: What kind of wedding do you want?
I’m not talking about theme, colours or the venue. I mean what kind of VIBE do you want at your wedding? Do you want a lot of people, a massive party, Lionel-Richie-style? (All Night Long!) . OR did you want a more intimate, casual affair? You can still have the crazy, dancing on the tables type party with a smaller group, but you just need to decide which one you want. Your budget may allow for 200+ people to be invited, but if you don’t want that kind of wedding, then you don’t have to have them all there. Choose big or small, and stick with it!
"Do you want a lot of people, a massive party, Lionel-Richie-style? (All Night Long!). OR did you want a more intimate, casual affair?"
Ok let’s get into it. Now that magic number that is in your head that you’re so desperately clinging on to? Just for this step, get rid of that magical number and toss it in the bin. We don’t want to be let down by our previous expectations, you’ll just feel like shit, and we don’t want that.
Get your pen, paper (take a big gulp of your wine), and write down everyone you know that you WANT at your wedding. Not just anyone, like that old man on the corner near the grocery shop who break dances for coins. Think of everyone in your family (yes the rent-a-crowd), your partners family, your friends, their friends, work colleagues, different friend groups (yoga friends, puppy-club friends, drinking friends, your mum’s friends etc). So once you’ve written down everyone on your list, take another sip of wine and count them up. Don’t immediately start panicking over the number, just decide if you wish to cut it down. If you do, excellent! Let’s move onto Step 2. If you’re happy with your list and your budget can allow for everyone, then congratulations! I can tell you’re going to have one, massive kick-arse party!! Can you put my name on the guest list too please?
Step Two: Let’s Start Culling
Now I want you to get a big red pen, and we are going to go through the list together. Below I have a FREE DOWNLOAD for you, The “Should I Invite This Person” Guide! Download this guide, and use it for each guest that you are second guessing about inviting. It will make you ask yourself “Have I spoken to them in the last 6 months?” Or “Are they a close friend?”. Use this guide for the people you are second guessing about, and it will give you a straight up, honest answer of whether you should invite them or not. Too easy!