If you're engaged and currently in the mist of planning your wedding, you have probably received ALOT of unsolicited advice.
Yes I’m sure its because they are just trying to help, but then you get that one person who just keeps coming at you with the ultimate worst help they could give you, and you think maybe they are just a screwed up, horrible person? And more often than not, it always comes from a Jan. Don’t ask me why, its just how life is.
Below is some of the crappiest, just plain stupid wedding advice going around. Try to keep the eye-rolling to a minimum please.
“Just take out a loan”
Umm no, sorry. I’m not going to put myself into debt just so I can have a $5000 dress. You can easily have a wedding well within your budget without having to take a loan out. Consider cutting down on the guest list, cost of your dress, favours or even flowers. Or opt to have a longer engagement so you can save up for your ultimate wedding.
“Just send them an invite, they won’t come”
No, no, no. Because they will come. And if you “just send an invite” to 20 extra people, and they do show up, that’s 20 extra mouths you have to feed, supply drinks and accommodate seating for. Only send out invitations to people who you want to be there.
“The point of a wedding is to get money, invite as many people as you can”
Sorry Jan, but isn’t the point of a wedding because two people love each other and want to celebrate this with their family and friends? Don’t invite people just to receive money, because the amount of money you spend on them easily outweighs what they will give you.
“F what the groom wants, it’s YOUR day!”
No, my day is my birthday…and I get it every year, and its all about me. Your wedding is about BOTH of you! The worse thing is having your groom turn up to your wedding and looking just as surprised as the guests.
“Oh just DIY it!” Or “Jan’s son Dave has a really good camera, he can just be your wedding photographer”
DIY is hell for me. And it will be for you as well when you find yourself still awake at 3am the night before your wedding, gluing ribbon onto jars or cutting up a bazillion pieces of paper confetti. It's not worth the stress and time when you can pay someone to do it.
“This is the biggest day of your life!”
Not really advice but I had to include this one. My eye-roll is on point whenever I hear this. I really hope my wedding day isn’t the biggest day of my life, because seriously, do I have nothing else to look forward to after this? Have I not experienced anything as grand and wonderful previously before my wedding?